Men need to be touched

Men need to be touched; here some benefits from the Best Man to man massage London central, find sensual massage for men, True Tantric Male to Male Massage London

Warm, friendly male to male massage touch has profoundly positive chemical, emotional and relational impact on human beings. It causes drops in the level of the stress hormone cortisol, slows down the heart, and lowers blood pressure. It increases levels of the hormone oxytocin— also called the “cuddle hormone”— allowing us to build trusting relationships with each other.

According to Matt Hertenstein, an experimental psychologist at DePauw University, “oxytocin is a neuropeptide, which basically promotes feelings of devotion, trust and bonding…. It really lays the biological foundation and structure for connecting to other people

If we’re lucky, we get warm, healthy touch from many sources: parents, friends, teachers, massage and physical therapists, dance partners, and lovers. It’s a natural thing: we’re literally born needing and craving touch. Babies who are not held enough can face serious developmental difficulties. But particularly men, face a serious challenge when it comes to non- touch: many of them stop touching in a friendly, affectionate and cuddly way during adolescence. And according some research, it is because they’re afraid of being seen as gay

The tendency of modern-day men to avoid touching each other, making ourselves vulnerable, or sharing affection and emotions sharply contrasts with the way in which we used to support each other physically and emotionally in early times.

Whether it’s a squeeze of the hand, a big bear hug, a kneading massage, even a bedroom romp, touch is shaping up to be the ultimate mind-body medicine.

From lowering blood pressure and heart rate to increasing immune function and relieving pain, getting touched or doing some touching makes you healthier — not to mention happier and less anxious.

How do you tap into these body-boosting benefits? Let us count the ways.

 

Get a rubdown

Anyone who’s ever gotten a man to man massage — even a quickie at a mall kiosk — knows that it helps you unwind. That’s not just a mental sensation: Getting massaged causes muscles to unclench, a racing heart rate to slow, heightened blood pressure to fall, and levels of the stress hormone cortisol to drop. In that relaxed state, your body is able to regroup and recharge. One happy result: a more robust immune system.

“Cortisol suppresses the immune response,” explains Roberta Lee, MD, vice chair of the Department of Integrative Medicine at Beth Israel Medical Center in New York City. “Anything that increases the relaxation response triggers the restoration of your immune response.”

Recently, researchers measured immune function in healthy adults who got either a massage of lighter touch. The massaged group had substantially more white blood cells — including natural killer cells, which help the body fight viruses and other pathogens — and fewer types of inflammatory cytokines associated with autoimmune diseases.

Hug it out

The act of embracing floods our bodies with oxytocin, a “bonding hormone” that makes people feel secure and trusting toward each other, lowers cortisol levels, and reduces stress. Men that are open to received hugs in affection have higher levels of oxytocin and lower blood pressure and heart rates

In my  Masseur practice, I have come to see that many men who have no interest whatsoever in exploring other men sexually still need warm, supportive, caring relationships with other men. We need affection from each other (regardless of orientation). Many men of all orientations want some sort of caring touch, but something more than a high-five or a slap on the back. We need to be able to be emotionally open to each other, vulnerable, mutually supportive, and caring.

My experience of literally hundreds of hours spent massaging and holding men— identifying themselves as “straight”, “gay”, “bisexual”, or “curious”— is that those labels are largely irrelevant to the practice of supportive connection to each other. The capacity for emotional feelings with each other, for vulnerability and supportive empowerment is fairly constant, in my experience, regardless of orientation. And it is a beautiful and supportive gift we can offer each other, an alliance we need, and a brotherhood we deserve.

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